Business leader and author Max Depree is famous for his saying that the “number one job of a leader is to define reality.” In our current postmodern world where everything goes, someone must have the courage to tell the truth, like the courageous young man in the Hans Christian Anderson fairy tale who finally told the Emperor that he had no clothes. Truth be told many situations do not play themselves out as we may have rehearsed them in our mind’s eye. The key is to embrace the reality that is before us, knowing that it is hard and that foster parents can actually be trained to embrace the difficulty and work through it over time